How to Heal from Heartbreak

What if healing isn’t about time at all?

You can heal from heartbreak (even if you feel like you never will).

Are you struggling after a breakup?

Whether it just happened or it's been months, heartbreak can take over everything. Your sleep. Your thoughts. Your ability to focus. Even your sense of who you are.

And no two breakups are the same. What happened in your relationship matters. Why it affected you the way it did matters. And what is keeping you stuck now matters.

With over 30 years’ experience helping women through heartbreak, separation and divorce, I know there is a reason you're finding this so hard. And understanding that reason is the first step towards changing it.

Find out what's keeping you stuck

This free 5-minute quiz identifies how you're responding to this breakup and gives you personalised insight into why you're feeling the way you are and what can help you move forward.

Take the 5-minute Quiz

Time doesn't heal heartbreak. The right strategies do.

You've waited. You've kept busy. You've told yourself it will get easier.

But heartbreak isn't something you simply wait out.

You're dealing with loss, attachment, disrupted routines, unanswered questions, painful memories and a nervous system adjusting to a life it didn't expect.

That's why time alone isn't always enough.

Real heartbreak recovery means understanding what is keeping you stuck and using the right strategies to work through it.

Not more random advice. Not endlessly analysing what happened. A clear, structured process that helps you move forward.

That's exactly why I developed the PEACE Framework.

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The PEACE Framework

Heartbreak is a unique form of grief, yet there is surprisingly little guidance on how to actually heal from it.

Over more than 30 years working with women through heartbreak, separation and divorce, I kept seeing the same thing.

People were trying to jump straight to the end. Move on. Let go. Start again.

But when you skip the work in the middle, healing can take longer, and the same painful patterns often follow you into the next relationship. And the cycle repeats.

That's why I developed the PEACE Framework:

A clear, structured process for working through heartbreak to heal in the fastest yet healthiest way possible.

Prepare: How do I calm the storm enough to think clearly?
Explore: What actually happened to me, them and the relationship?
Analyse: What do the patterns mean?
Change: What do I need to do differently now?
Emerge: Who do I become after this, and how do I love differently?

Heartbroken woman going through a breakup

Heartbreak Reset

A short, practical program with 25 evidence-based techniques for the moments when your thoughts, emotions or urges feel overwhelming.

Every technique takes 5 minutes or less, so you have something practical to do when you need it most.

Short. Practical. Evidence-based.

Explore Heartbreak Reset

Break Up Specialist Rachael Reed offering one-on-one Coaching

One-to-One Heartbreak Support

Personalised one-to-one support to help you understand exactly what happened, why you're still hurting and what's keeping you stuck.

Together, we make sense of your relationship and build a clear, evidence-based path forward, tailored specifically to you.

Work with Rachael

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Rachael J Reed

With a background in psychology and family law, and having lived through heartbreak myself, I understand this from both sides of the room.

Meet Rachael

Heartbreak Recovery Program

Explore Rachael's Heartbreak Recovery Program, where I use science backed strategies, techniques, and my PEACE method to bring you from heartbreak to happiness.

One-on-One Coaching

Explore one-on-one heartbreak coaching opportunities with Rachael. Dive deeper into your personal situation, whether it be a breakup, divorce or the ending of a situationship. Emerge with a concrete plan to heal your broken heart.

Heartbreak Blog Posts

Explore Rachaels blog posts tackling a range of heartbreak topics; from attachment styles to heartbreak symptoms, strategies, myths and neuroscience. There's bound to be something you'll find useful.

About Rachael

Meet Rachael, your heartbreak coach, and learn about her wealth of knowledge in the world of breakups, divorces and unrequited love. What makes Rachael a heartbreak expert? Find out below.

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Watch My Free Heartbreak Support Masterclass

An understanding of why heartbreak hurts so much.
My 5-Step Heartbreak Recovery Blueprint using my PEACE framework.
Further options for support (only if you need it)

The PEACE Framework

Healing from heartbreak doesn’t happen by accident. After decades of helping people navigate breakups, separation, and emotional loss,

I developed the PEACE Framework—a clear, evidence-based roadmap that helps you move from pain to peace. Whether you're feeling stuck in the past or overwhelmed by your emotions, this step-by-step process gives you the tools and structure to finally move forward.

repare – Lay the Foundation for Healing

Begin by creating safety and stability. This stage is about tending to your nervous system, understanding the impact of heartbreak on the brain and body, and making space for recovery.

xplore – Understand Your Emotional Landscape

Start identifying your patterns, pain points, and emotional triggers. You'll begin to unpack what this heartbreak really activated for you—through the lens of neuroscience, attachment theory, and psychology.

nalyse – Gain Clarity on What Happened

Dig deeper into your relationship story. This step helps you make sense of your past without falling into self-blame, so you can understand your role, your ex’s patterns, and what kept you stuck.

hange – Shift the Patterns That Keep You Stuck

Now that you know what isn’t working, you’ll begin to break old cycles, rewire unhelpful beliefs, and practice new ways of thinking and behaving. This is where transformation begins.

merge – Step Into a Future You’re Excited About

You’re not just “getting over” your heartbreak—you’re becoming someone stronger and wiser. This final stage focuses on building self-trust, setting boundaries, and opening your heart to life again.

Need some clarity on what happened and what to do next?

Heartbreak is personal. Your relationship matters. What happened matters. And what's keeping you stuck matters.

Sometimes you need more than information. You need a fresh perspective on your relationship, your breakup and what you need to do next.

That's exactly what my complimentary 45-minute Relationship Clarity Session is for.

Together, we'll make sense of what's happened, identify what's keeping you stuck and work out a clear way forward tailored specifically to you.

If you're ready, choose a time that works for you.

Book your clarity session

How to Heal from Heartbreak

What if moving on isn't about time at all?

You can heal from heartbreak (even if you feel like you never will)

Photo of psychologist and heartbreak coach Rachael Reed sitting in an office

Take a 5-Minute Quiz

Are you struggling after a breakup?

Whether it just happened or it's been months, heartbreak can take over everything. Your sleep. Your thoughts. Your ability to focus. Even your sense of who you are.

And no two breakups are the same. What happened in your relationship matters. Why it affected you the way it did matters. And what is keeping you stuck now matters.

Find out what's keeping you stuck

This free 5-minute quiz identifies how you're responding to this breakup and gives you personalised insight into why you're feeling the way you are and what can help you move forward.

Take a 5-Minute Quiz

Time doesn't heal heartbreak. The right strategies do.

You've waited. You've kept busy. You've told yourself it will get easier.

But heartbreak isn't something you simply wait out.

You're dealing with loss, attachment, disrupted routines, unanswered questions, painful memories and a nervous system adjusting to a life it didn't expect.

That's why time alone isn't always enough.

Real heartbreak recovery means understanding what is keeping you stuck and using the right strategies to work through it.

Not more random advice. Not endlessly analysing what happened. A clear, structured process that helps you move forward.

That's exactly why I developed the PEACE Framework.

The PEACE Framework

Heartbreak is a unique form of grief, yet there is surprisingly little guidance on how to actually heal from it.

More than 30 years working with women through heartbreak, separation and divorce, I kept seeing the same thing.

People were trying to jump straight to the end. Move on. Let go. Start again.

But when you skip the work in the middle, healing can take longer, and the same painful patterns often follow you into the next relationship. And the cycle repeats.

That's why I developed the PEACE Framework:

A clear, structured process for working through heartbreak to heal in the fastest yet healthiest way possible.

Heartbreak Reset

A short, practical program with 25 evidence-based techniques for the moments when your thoughts, emotions or urges feel overwhelming.

Every technique takes 5 minutes or less, so you have something practical to do when you need it most.

Short. Practical. Evidence-based.

Explore Heartbreak Reset

One-to-One Heartbreak Support

Personalised one-to-one support to help you understand exactly what happened, why you're still hurting and what's keeping you stuck.

Together, we make sense of your relationship and build a clear, evidence-based path forward, tailored specifically to you.

Work with Rachael

Rachael J Reed

With a background in psychology and family law, and having lived through heartbreak myself, I understand this from both sides of the room.

Meet Rachael

Heartbreak Blog Posts

Practical, psychology-backed insights to help you understand heartbreak, attachment, and why moving on after a breakup feels so hard.
Start making sense of what you are going through.

Attachment Style Quiz

Whats your Attachment Style?

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Understanding your attachment style is one of the most powerful tools for healing from heartbreak and building healthier relationships. Attachment styles—Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful—develop early in life and shape how we connect, communicate, and cope with emotional closeness and separation.

In relationships, they influence how we handle intimacy, trust, conflict, and vulnerability. After a breakup, your attachment style can explain why you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected—and why certain patterns keep repeating. Gaining insight into your style helps you recognize triggers, set boundaries, and respond with greater self-compassion. It’s not about blaming yourself, but about understanding your wiring—so you can consciously shift toward more secure, connected, and fulfilling relationships in the future.

Coping Style Quiz

Whats your Coping Style?

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In my work I've noticed that some people drown in emotions, others blame themselves, some people spiral in their head, some people try to detach and numb themselves while others are focussed on the future. While I've observed people having a combination of all of these, typically; one of these responses is their primary response. I call this a persons "Primary Emotional Response."

We all cope differently in the face of heartache. It's important to understand what your style of coping is so that we can come up with strategies that are small, achievable, relevant to heartbreak, and also relevant to your particular coping style.

Watch My Free Heartbreak Support Masterclass

An understanding of why heartbreak hurts so much.
My 5-Step Heartbreak Recovery Blueprint using my PEACE framework.
Further options for support (only if you need it)

Need some clarity on what happened and what to do next?

Heartbreak is personal. Your relationship matters. What happened matters. And what's keeping you stuck matters.

Sometimes you need more than information. You need a fresh perspective on your relationship, your breakup and what you need to do next.

That's exactly what my complimentary 45-minute Relationship Clarity Session is for.

Together, we'll make sense of what's happened, identify what's keeping you stuck and work out a clear way forward tailored specifically to you.

If you're ready, choose a time that works for you.

Book Clarity Session

Whats your Attachment Style Quiz

Find out your Attachment Style here.

Whats your Coping Style? Quiz

Find out your Primary Emotional Response here.

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Need some clarity on what happened and what too next?

Heartbreak is personal. Your relationship matters. What happened matters. And what's keeping you stuck matters.

Sometimes you need more than information. You need a fresh perspective on your relationship, your breakup and what you need to do next.

That's exactly what my complimentary 45-minute Relationship Clarity Session is for.

Together, we'll make sense of what's happened, identify what's keeping you stuck and work out a clear way forward tailored specifically to you.

If you're ready, choose a time that works for you.

Book Your Clarity Session